Stop the Body Shaming

October 18, 2014

Have you ever seen before and after pictures that people have posted and you’re scrolling through the comments and you see someone state “omg you looked SO much better before”, or “the new body on the right is so unattractive”.

I never understand why people would say this. Sure, some people can think one looks better than the other – everyone is entitled to their own opinion on what they consider attractive, obviously. But why do people feel the need to express that negative comment openly to the person? That is still considered body shaming, and is completely unnecessary in my opinion.

Would you ever say to someone who has gained a lot of weight “wow you look so unattractive right now, you looked so much better before”. NO. I highly doubt that, so what makes it right to say to someone who has worked their butt off to get fit? It doesn’t.

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All bodies are beautiful. Big, small, short, tall, etc. It’s important for everyone to love their bodies at EVERY stage, and having other people put their bodies down, at any stage, makes it hard for people to do so.

Body image is a touchy subject. So many people struggle with it, but don’t express their struggles. I know, because I used to be one of those people. Self-love is something that takes time if you have struggled with loving your body before. That’s why you never know who you are saying these negative comments to.

Think before you say something. It sounds cliche, but if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it. If someone looks sick – that may be another story, but there is a right way to handle things, and most people don’t go about that way properly.

I’m on a quest to STOP THE BODY SHAMING. Everyone is beautiful, and everyone has the right to FEEL beautiful and be confident in their skin. Compliment others, the world could use more niceness.

 

Who is with me?

Has this ever happened to you?

 

 

 

8 Comments
    1. I couldn’t agree with you more! I think sometimes we are our own worst enemies when it comes to body shaming. Then if someone else chimes in you start doubting all the progress you’ve made. I’m with ya on this – if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything. That’s the best motto to live by especially when it is personal like weight loss or body composition.

    1. “but if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it” <- However cliché that might be it bears repeating time and time again. The same goes for any time somebody feels the need to ramble on – not just about body image but any topic – and it's all hot air and no meaningful content. And sadly, a lot of people feel the need to talk without any nice or significant things coming about.
      Back to the original topic, though: I'm right there with you. Yet I wonder if we will ever be able to revert body image and the impact it has on all of us again. It has obviously been ever-changing for centuries but I feel we're at a peak of our obsession with body image – there's always a new plan to be even thinner, never disciplined enough, … I don't think people were stressing -that- much in previous decades.

      1. I completely agree with you! It’s hard these days, and hopefully it gets better instead of worse.

    1. I actually found you via IG and went through and looked at a lot of photos. I like your photos. I like this post. However, I feel like it’s totally contradictory. You post photos of what you looked like before and then what you look like now and comment on how much better you look now. One specific photo where you talk about your Aunt Jemima pancake ass sticks out. I get it. I HATE feeling skinny and LIKE having muscle. It’s how I feel attractive. However, I never post pictures of my old self and put down how thin I looked. I’ll say I feel more comfortable now. Your Jemima pancake ass looked fine. Your muscles look fine. But when people who are thin or insecure about their pancake ass read those posts that you put up, it doesn’t really scream, “Hey guys, accept yourselves and love your body.” It’s STILL body shaming to those people who have those characteristics that you didn’t like about yourself because of the way you word it. It’s absolutely fine to show your journey and show how proud you are, but a caption like, “That was a body I felt attractive in before, and now I look back and realize how much stronger and healthier I feel with the muscle that I have now” seems more positive than calling out the pancake ass. And again, I REALLY do like your IG (loved the workout videos- got great ideas from them) and I think this blog is great and so is this post, but I just couldn’t help but notice that while I know you don’t mean to put others to shame, it still is definitely a poor choice on wording on MANY captions on your IG.

      1. Thanks for your comment. I think that the pictures you are referring to are the ones where I was very skinny and unhealthy. I wasn’t trying to put anyones body down, because obviously I promote loving your body at any stage. However, in the pictures where I do have a “pancake butt” (don’t even really remember referring it as that), I was in an unhealthy state eating very low calorie, running way too many miles, and just not healthy. I’m sorry if it came off that way, because I truly do think everyones body is beautiful. and most of my other instagram captions don’t put down my before body. In fact, I usually state that there was nothing wrong with my before body, as in my most recent body transformation on IG. If I have wrote something like that in a caption, it must have been a while ago. Again, I know what you mean, and I wasn’t aware I was saying those things in my captions, because I truly do not mean it. I’m sorry about that! Thanks again for your comment girl.

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