I never make “New Year’s Resolutions”. I have nothing against them, but let’s be real, I completely forget about them in a couple of weeks. Yup, guilty.
Resolutions can also mean “fixing a problem”. Sure, we all got through shit in life. However, I don’t things should necessarily be seen as problems that need fixing. A lot of people also tend to make resolutions based on themselves, which is the main reason why I don’t think you need to think of yourself as a “problem”.
The good thing about a new year, is to leave whatever happened in the year before behind you. You live and you learn. Everything that happens in life is a learning opportunity, whether it was something good or something bad. That’s life.
Instead of making resolutions that I’ll forget in a couple of weeks, there are a few things I personally like doing when it is a new year:
- Reflect on the certain things you may have went through in the past year that weren’t all that great.
- You know when someone asks you good or bad news first, you’re supposed to say bad, right? This is just like that. I don’t completely shut out some of the negatives that happened in the last year. I think about what might have happened and focus on what did I learn from that experience. You get so much more out of it when you look at it this way, instead of complaining that you can’t believe x,y,z happened last year. Think about what you learned and then move on.
- Reflect all of the incredible things that happened in the past year.
- First, this makes you forget about the not-so-great things you may have just thought about. Second, it makes you remember that you really did have a great year. Maybe you accomplished amazing things you never thought were possible, maybe you stepped outside your comfort zone and changed your life. Whatever it may be, it allows you to reflect on how these things made you feel and reminds you that you are capable of doing awesome shit. Yeah, YOU!
- Think about things you want to accomplish this year – things that will challenge you, make you happy, change you, scare you, excite you, etc.
- These things can be specific goals, but remember that you don’t necessarily need deadlines. The thing to remember as well is you don’t really know what the future holds. Sure, you can have things in mind that you want to accomplish, but things happen when you least expect it. So don’t beat yourself up over a certain “goal” with a deadline you may make at new years but it doesn’t happen by whatever time you were hoping.
It’s up to you to create the life you want, but life is also unpredictable. I believe that you go through things for a reason, whether it is to learn from mistakes or to lead you down the path where you’re supposed to go. Life doesn’t always turn out exactly the way we envision it, but it’s also important to have specific plans in mind that we want to achieve that we work toward. You can’t control everything that happens, but you also can’t sit back and hope that something miraculous occurs without doing anything yourself.
For this new year, I hope that you go after what you want and do all the things you want to do. Think about your passions. If it scares you a little and excites you a lot, GO FOR IT. You are capable of anything you put your mind to.
Cheers to a great year ahead.