Good Vibes Only

June 1, 2015

Negativity. Unfortunately, there is a lot of that in this world, and there are a lot of people that will not only have negative vibes and intentions, but be negative towards you.

This is something that we can’t really control, but what we can control is choosing to block it out of our lives. We can choose not to listen to what these people are saying, and we can also choose to cut these certain people out of our lives.


Here’s a little story:

Yesterday someone went off on me because I stated that 6 meals a day didn’t speed up your metabolism. I was not saying this in a condescending way, but really just wanted to shed some light on the fact that you could eat however many meals you wanted and be fine. I honestly do not care if you eat 20 meals a day or 1 meals a day, if that’s what you like to do, then do it. I was simply just trying to help.

They blew up on me saying that I didn’t know anything about fitness or nutrition and that no one should listen to what I have to say because I have no muscle at all and anyone can squat or get on the treadmill. Um, okay. Yeah, I may not be huge because I don’t take anything to enhance that and make the process faster, but from where I’ve come from I’ve made damn good progress and I’m proud of that.
I honestly feel sorry for these people that try to put others down or criticize others. It really comes down to the fact that they’re either insecure or they are just trying to get a rise out of you. There will always be people like this unfortunately, but all you can do is ignore it and pray for them since the negativity in their life is obviously because of a deeper reason.
Thankfully we don’t need anyone’s approval of ourselves but OUR OWN. As long as you are happy and healthy, that’s all that matters.
We can analyze the situation, we can let it get to us, but in reality what is that going to do? It’s only going to drive US crazy, for no reason at all.
You can have one person say that they love the way you look, and have another person say they hate it the same exact day. One person might love your hair color, another might hate it. One person may say you have no muscle, another may say you have too much.
Moral of the story is: you really cannot please everyone.
While some people can go out of their way to try and bring you down, it’s up to you not to let them. Do not let anyone tell you how to live YOUR life, or to tell you what is ok about your life – the way you look, what you do, who you talk to, and who you are.
I’ve also learned that if people are in your life that are constantly draining you, putting you down, giving off negative energy, regardless if it is a friend or a family member, you shouldn’t be afraid to cut them out of your life. Your mental health is just as important as your physical, and that includes your social/personal life. It’s hard to do this, but I’ve found my life improve significantly when I have cut some people out of my life that did not belong in it and that constantly drained me.
It’s okay to do what’s best for YOU. Health and happiness over all.
Have you dealt with negative people?
Anything you’d like to share!

    1. Oooh. That quote resonated with me. I am keeping all the negative water out of this damn ship today 🙂

    1. Haters gonna hate, always.

      People get defensive when their own beliefs are challenged. We like to think we are right about anything. This person thought small meals 6x a day sped up their metabolism. You gave them a reason to doubt themselves, and because of their stunted emotional intelligence they lashed out at you with insults. When you can get people THAT pissed off you know you are doing something right.

    1. 😆 Sometimes I can’t help but laugh at the menial things that people get so hung up about. Like… really? Blowing up at someone over something like how many meals to eat in a day? Please find more important things to worry about. K, thx. I’ve received my fair share of negativity, and while it used to get to me, I’ve learned that the things people say tend to be more of a reflection of them than who they direct those things towards.

      1. right?!?! lol so silly. love ya girl

    1. Honestly, I don’t take negativity/criticism very well, haha. It’s the people-pleaser in me. But it’s a shame because now that I think about it – that fear holds me back from a lot (being fully myself, sharing things that might be “taboo,” etc.). Thanks for sharing this – I need your attitude!

      1. I used to not take it well, either. BUT I’ve learned not to give a crap because people are usually very ridiculous!

    1. Agree with this so much! I am figuring this out right now and it is making life a lot better!

    1. It’s so sad about what people find to criticize. You are strong with such a great attitude and I always enjoy your reflective posts Brittany.

    1. A freakin men. I always find that the negative people – especially ones who feel the need to take out that negativity on someone else (that they don’t even really know) – are miserable and just trying to spread their misery. Really sad but true. I know for me, I will get 20 positive comments and then 1 negative and it’s super hard not to focus on the negative one. But you are so right, CUT THAT SHIT OUT. I went through a period where I had to distance myself from a few friends that literally brought nothing good to my life anymore, and it was so hard, but after a while I realized how much happier I was. There are so many awesome people in the world that there is no point keeping ones who don’t lift you up in your life. Ok novel over. Love you.

      1. YES so true. I did that as well, and my life got so much better. LOVE YOU!

    1. Can you believe me when I say that your post is spot on and that I have nothing else to add?? 😀 I usually block negative people out, I don’t really listen to them but if I’m forced to say something, I’ll basically go “yeh yeh whatever” and move on. We all need to find some confidence and belief within ourselves and then nothing can stop us.

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